The Art of turning a good day with a bad start to a fresher and better one: 3 Strategies to bringing the change

February 24, 2022

 

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How to deal with a bad day? Every day cannot be Valentine's day. Some days can be bad. How does one deal with a bad one?

Maybe you are okay with it, but can other people bear your tantrums. Everyone is not your mom and maybe they tolerate your nakhra and some don't. Why not take a hold of it and change it?

Let me share some strategies that have helped me.

1. Your day is not over

Each day and the events within the day don't need to be like a series of dominoes. 

A bad start doesn't mean a bad ending. It is in your mind. 

You can stop, take a deep breath and remember a positive moment or a better day. 

Now start afresh. You have decided to start from a better moment. Now you can end your day well.

2. It is your time and your day

We are all like islands in our own heads but we are in reality connected with each other. 

It is normal to slide on a few things and lose control. Maybe you need to take the toll of your current situation and reclaim the control you have lost. 

How do you want to experience your current reality? Choose a better thought over a defeatist one. 

You have nothing gained by allowing your day to go bad.

3. Take a short break

Maybe you have had a tiresome week and you need a small break. 

I am not suggesting leaving your duty and commitments. You need to spare 5 minutes of your day. 

You can meditate, pray, or maybe listen to some calming or positive music.

Conclusion

If you have had a bad day and you are reading this article. This is time to stop reading this article and start practicing what I have suggested. 

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This blog is 100 Post old, the journey so far, Planning and plans to make the road ahead awesome...

February 13, 2022

 

Thank you for your support I completed 100 Posts on this blog

Journeys and a new journey



A journey starts with the first few steps but it actually begins with a desire. Desire to be somewhere and do something.

I love journeys it gives you time to stop and think. It disrupts your journey and puts in a place where you may encounter the unknown.

My journey blogging has had a similar feel to it, I was encouraged by friends to start it.

I never regret it, but I have tried to experiment with it along the way.

My Experiments blogging

Check this experiment

This blog has been a personal one. I have tried to focus on my insights and thoughts. I have done quite a few experiments along the way.

I have tried using ads on this platform and working on different formats. I have learnt a lot from this experience.

I think there may be techniques to get better, but I must say it is worth the effort.

Good, Better, Best with Christopher Dias: A New Series


Check this series | Follow me on Scrollstack

I have started a new series on Stck.me or Scrollstack. I share short posts in a newsletter format.

You can treat it like a daily companion on Self Help and Personal Effectiveness.

I am 3 posts old and I am loving it already. You can get access to my articles by following me.

It costs you nothing, absolutely nothing. Just a few moments from your quota of time and a bit of attention.

If you like the posts there do like them and comment there. If you share it would be great.

What is my Next Target?

Check this post | Wisdom by Bob Proctor


My next target for this blog is coming with more digital resources. I have been thinking about creating downloadables and small e-books.

I think different types of content require different formats. I have found E-Books to be more focused and geared towards learning a concept or looking at a new perspective.

I am in the process of researching ideas and collecting required resources. Lets see it should be up soon.

I plan to present them to you people soon! Fingers crossed 🤞 I am hoping for the best.

Conclusion


Thank you for the love and support you guys have shown me. It is great to have a committed and supportive audience.

Do share your feedback and comment on my FB Page. Wish you a Happy Valentine's Day!

See you in the next post, Ciao!

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Why you are not actually slacking on your goals ? Putting my New Year's resolution in action and being kind to myself

January 20, 2022
Don't make your goals a burden; being kind to myself

After spending most of last year in Goa, We were back in my beloved Pune, coming back is awesome and feels good.

Yes, I have been focusing on my life (I have been away from this blog for a while), But I am already working on my goals.

I think it is important to keep things in perspective and work your ideas to reality.

Failing is sometimes more of a feedback rather than only an outcome.

The Thing that has converted me...

Goals can be flexible - @Kiss_toff

I think goals are powerful. But then how come we don't fulfil them.

I think life happens. I have learnt to see goals more as reminders and signpost to help one move towards their destination rather than an obligation.

Just having them around help us deal with uncertainty. We start working on ideas and we keep things in motion. 

The problem is when we get fixated on them (goals). We treat them like a prophecy that has to become real in the way we imagine it.

The idea that Goals can be flexible and can be used strategically to deal with uncertain circumstances is the idea I hold to.

It has been a kind of religious experience. Sometimes we are stuck because we need to change our ideas about things.

Bringing in Experiences to deal with Uncertainty

Check this Quote on Uncertainty

I learnt that multitasking was a bad idea while reading self help books and also from experience.

I think chunking activities down is far more effective. If I personally can't work on these activities I begin by planning for it.

Once I flesh out a proper strategy or recipe to work on, I start working on it.

Another thing I learnt was getting in people who are experienced in what you want to achieve. Like a coach or a teacher.

You don't need to work on your success by yourself. It does require spending a bit of time or money. But my experience has shown me it helps.

I mostly expect at least 70% of the promises to be delivered for it to be a successful venture.

After completing one chunk of activity I move on to the next.

Listening to yourself

Don't ignore your inner voice | Check this post on Introspection


Sometimes we slack a bit or may be consciously kill a resolution we have. May be we need to listen to ourselves a bit.

Are we feeling lazy or discouraged? Is the goal bringing in a lot of change? Is the change too much to deal with?

Just spending some 'Me-time' can surely help. With a new baby boy, My wife and me have been quite busy.

So I decided to not overburden myself and perform badly at work or blogging. I use my time to practice focusing and trying observe and learn from people around me.

I don't see this as a time wasted, Yes it is a detour but one that will help focus better on my goals by reflection or crafting some plan.

In conclusion

I must say that challenging ourselves is important. One way we can do that is by actually trying to work on our own aspirations and goals.

Life happens and we must enjoy it (by choosing too). Our choices and our perceptions are completely ours and so we must not waste it.

Either we learn something from it or we achieve it, Getting discouraged doesn't need to be the only option.

Choose better and wish you success. May you succeed in your goals. Thank you for stopping by. I hope you liked this post.

Ciao!

How to make this New Year awesome? 5 Key Insights to better Resolutions for this New Year

January 01, 2022
How to make this New Year Count?


 It is a new day, a new moment and a New Year. The Previous year has been filled with joys and lessons of its own.

Besides growing a year older, it brings a lot of hope and aspirations that are waiting to be fulfilled.

Resolutions and promises are waiting for their execution. I personally can get quite superstitious about the 1st of January.

But this year I am not going to buy into that obvious lie. For me, this is the year of Slaying BS. I am going to focus on cutting out things rather than only fulfilling my New Year's Resolution.

Some Areas of Focus


It is easy to think that Self Development is only about you. I think this is farther from the truth. It is also about community and people.

If you ever wondered why people join cults or keep bad company, besides feeling good they are looking to better themselves.

I think New Year's Resolution is a way of expressing it. Rather than dismissing the whole exercise, we must write some of the things we would like to achieve in the coming year.

Don't look at them as targets but choose to accept them as aspirations. They are no longer just targets you desire but desires that seek to be a reality.

Areas such as Health, Public Image, Finances, etc. are some places we can work on.

Enablers vs Empty Routines


I am sure you have heard me promote Journaling and Affirmations. I believe these are tools that enable us and remind us of what we need to focus on.

Focus is the main game,  there are a lot of people and things vying for attention. I think it is also important to bring in some enthusiasm, it makes the routine more fun and filled with a healthy passion.

Just doing activities may bring some amount of results, but sustainable results are something we all want.

Having the right kind of situation may not always be possible. Sometimes we need to take control and make things a possibility in the light of change and dynamic situations.

Developing a System that works for you

All Routines are not empty, I think only those that are not connected to some goal or personal joy are.

It is important to work on a system. Systems work together to achieve a focused task, Think of a clock. So many working parts and one goal,  telling you the Time.

We can break down our goals into tasks that work together as a system. Of course, using and modifying the system would be essential.

Think of them as updates on your Mobile phone, we plug the gaps and improve the working of your device. Similarly, we can modify the system we create to help ourselves.

Oh, it may not work, Yes that is a possibility. But think about it you are working on your goals and taking concrete steps towards fulfilling your aspirations or goals.

Using Patience

Being Patient is sometimes the only resort. We must build it up as a part of our usual routine.

It is also a reminder we don't need to get it right the first time. In some cases, we may also need to seek help from others in fulfilling certain goals.

Be Patient and give yourself a chance. Be that Boss you always wanted. The one that motivates you and understands you too.

Lastly, learn from others

Competing with yourself is all good. But what's wrong with raising your standards and learning from others.

You can broaden your (mental) horizon by looking at things from another person's point of view.

Competing with self has its limitation and why be limited.

Concluding Thoughts

I would like to conclude by wishing each one of you a very Happy New Year. May you truly have a fulfilling and joyous year.

Thank you for the constant support and time you take to read my thoughts. Do share it with others.

Remember it's your Year, your time and your response. See you in the next post. Ciao! 

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