Treasuring and Missing our loved ones during tough times, 5 Suggested Strategies to cope with grief
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| Grieving is something we all may have to encounter at some point |
One of the two things constant in Life is Death and the second is Change. I think this is attributed to Buddha, I found this idea quite profound.
I have lost loved ones to death and it is a painful experience. You wonder (at the moment) if there is some way to restore them. It is painful to see them being buried or cremated. But it is a part of life.
It's everywhere in Nature, Death and New Birth. How does one cope with losing someone dear? I don't know if there is a special 5 step formula, but I do know the pain is real.
If you are one of those people who is experiencing this unfortunate situation. I wish you hope and strength, I am sorry for your loss.
I have collected some ideas that may serve you. They may help you cope and guide you through these difficult times.
Before writing and researching this article, I have dwelt on this topic many times.
Grief and Loss: An important Life event?
As we grow older this is a reality we find ourselves in. The possibility of us transitioning into the afterlife and our loved ones going through the same.
These pointers will focus on those who are left behind. Those who are bearing the pain of this huge loss.
I have spoken to a few friends and email subscribers, I am going to share some of the ideas I have got. Suggestions here are meant to help you cope and not serve as an alternative to Professional Medical Help.
Life can be difficult, community support and the right kind of Medical Support can be really productive. (Speaking as a recipient of good Medical support myself, Helping yourself is wise when you need it)
Some strategies to consider during grieving times:
I hope I don't personally find this odd when I am grieving. I used the word strategy, I think it can be an extremely painful situation to be in.
I have lost loved ones and I still miss them to this day. Some have been lost to illness, accidents and old age. But It feels painful whatever be the reason.
It is a part of life, a Life event we all must experience. But the ones left can be a lot of heartaches and memories.
It's normal to miss them
People express the pain in different ways. It's completely normal to miss a loved one. It may be missing a friend or a relative, missing a loved one always hurts.
You may feel a lot of things emotionally and physically while your grieving. It's normal to feel and experience these kinds of changes.
It's okay to express grief
While your grieving there is no set time limit or rules that govern the entire process. It's a heartfelt response to a personal loss.
You should not punish yourself or blame yourself for expressing your loss. Get the healthy support of friends or family members.
If possible join a support group or speak with a counsellor.
If you are physically hurt it is not considered wrong to seek help. Similarly ignoring professional help during tough situations is unnecessary. It is proper and right to seek professional help.
I would say it is wise too. A lot of times we become victims of wrong thinking patterns during difficult times. Professionals can give us strategies and effective help to deal with troubling situations.
It's fine to seek company or community
It's okay to delay making important decisions
Difficult questions may not come when we would like them to. So when making important decisions try to delay (if possible) to a time when you are in a better mental space.
I can't tell you how important this one is. But a better mental space is important while making Life-changing decisions.
It's fine if we commemorate them
It's okay to celebrate Life events associated with them. If people think otherwise it's okay.
I believe treasuring memories and appreciating people who made a difference in our lives is important.
It helps us express our appreciation and the wonderful moments we shared with them.
In Conclusion
I don't know how you process the afterlife and all its mysteries. But I am sure our Loved ones will always live in our memories and in our hearts.
Maybe there are things we thought we could do with them, but we must also remember the joyful moments you shared. You can share that joy with your near and dear ones.
Reaching out to people and creating new memories with people. We all move towards the same destination. I think it makes a difference to make a small difference.
I may not share the intensity of your pain, but as a Human, I can see how painful it is. Wish you strength and courage, May God bless you!
Further Reading
Coping with Grief and Loss by Helpguide
Coping with Grief and Loss by Psychological Health care
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